When a child begins ABA therapy, one of the most important first steps is pairing — a foundational process where our therapists focus on building trust and positive relationships with the child before introducing structured learning.
What is Pairing?
In simple terms, pairing means associating ourselves with fun, preferred activities so that the child learns to see their therapist as someone who brings good things — not just demands or instructions. Instead of jumping straight into programs, therapists spend time following the child’s lead, joining their play, and creating a warm, enjoyable environment.
For example, if a child loves bubbles, the therapist might blow bubbles together, laugh, and make it a fun game — without asking the child to do anything. Over time, this process helps the child associate their therapist with positive experiences.
Why Pairing Matters
Pairing builds a foundation for effective learning. When children enjoy being around their therapist, they’re more likely to engage, respond, and try new skills. It reduces unsafe behaviors that can happen when new demands are introduced too quickly, and it sets the tone for a trust-based relationship.
“My favorite part of pairing is seeing a child’s eyes light up when I walk into the room,” says Ariana R., RBT. “We’re building a relationship of trust. When a client trusts you, they’re so much more willing to learn from you.”
What Parents Can Expect
During the first few sessions, you might notice your child’s therapist playing, laughing, or exploring with your child rather than running formal programs. This is intentional. We’re laying the groundwork for future success by making therapy a safe, positive, and motivating experience.
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